Mary: Tough and Feisty

For protestants, Advent and Christmas are, in all honesty, the only time of the year we spend any time thinking about Mary.  Often the words, meek, mild, obedient, and submissive,  are used to describe her.  People talk about how young Mary is. All those words paint a particular picture of Mary.

But that’s not the picture we get when we read what the Bible has to say about her. One thing we need to remember is that the Bible doesn’t use a lot of descriptive language. We rarely are told what someone is thinking or feeling. As readers, our clues come from what people do and say. And Mary does and says some interesting things.

Mary’s encounter with the angel Gabriel is bookended by two other angel visitations in Luke’s gospel. There is a particular format, if you will, to angel encounters. Angels are, by all accounts, fearsome beings. That’s why one of the first things angels say to people is ,    “Fear not”.

Zechariah sees and angel and is “terrified; and fear overwhelmed him.” (Luke 1:11). The shepherds also see an angel “and they were terrified”. Both times the first thing the angel says is “Do not be afraid.” This is how visits from angels go- people who see an angel are terrified.

Except…Mary’s experience is different. When the angel visits Mary his first words are “Greetings, favored one!”  Mary is not terrified, or afraid. She is perplexed and she ponders. She wonders what is going on. She is never described as being terrified or afraid.

Zechariah an old priest and the shepherds, who were a tough bunch, are all terrified. But not Mary. She seems to be stronger than we typically give her credit for.

The angel Gabriel does tell Mary to not be afraid but that seems to be a word of encouragement for what God is asking her to do.  It seems more, “Don’t be afraid of the future” rather than don’t be afraid of an angel. She asks questions and after they are answered she agrees. “Here I am, the servant of the Lord; let it be with me according to your word”.  “Here I am” is the response of people called to speak and act on God’s behalf. With these three words, she stands alongside Moses, Samuel, and Isaiah.

When Mary says,” let it be with me”, she accepts her part in God’s redemption of the world. Mary understands the promises of Torah and the prophets. Mary knows “it” will change everything.

Meek and mild? How about tough and feisty?

Then Mary goes to visit her relative Elizabeth, probably a trip of 80-100 miles. A significant journey in those days.  And just in case we still want to reduce Mary to a little girl – meek, mild, unaware of what God is up to, she says this:


 “My soul magnifies the Lord,  

and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,

 for he has looked on the humble estate of his servant.

For behold, from now on all generations will call me blessed;

for he who is mighty has done great things for me, and holy is his name.

 And his mercy is for those who fear him from generation to generation.

 He has shown strength with his arm; he has scattered the proud in the thoughts of their hearts;

 he has brought down the mighty from their thrones and exalted those of humble estate;

he has filled the hungry with good things, and the rich he has sent away empty.

He has helped his servant Israel, in remembrance of his mercy,

as he spoke to our fathers, to Abraham and to his offspring forever.”


Mary’s song, the Magnificat, echos the words of the prophets. There is nothing meek, mild, submissive, or helpless about Mary. She proclaims God’s salvation of the oppressed. She accepts her role in God’s redemption of the world.

“Let it be with me according to your word.” That”it” is a big “it”. Pregnancy is always a big “it” and in Mary’s case there are social and religious consequences. But the “It” doesn’t end with the birth of Jesus.  The “It” involves her seeing Jesus fulfill his peculiar calling of Messiah. The “It” involves Mary seeing Jesus say and do things that will catch the attention of the authorities, both religious and Roman. The “It”  means Mary at the cross as her son dies. The “it” changes everything.

It takes a strong woman to say, “Let it be with me according to your word.” It takes a strong woman to stand alongside Moses, Samuel, and Isaiah. To speak a prophetic word.  It takes a strong woman to raise the Messiah and watch him change everything.


4 thoughts on “Mary: Tough and Feisty

  1. Excellent bridge of Advent to Christmas. Mary is strong … yet I’ve always found it interesting that not much seems to be known about her outside of motherhood.

    Merry Christmas to you and yours.

  2. So I finally found time to delve into my 60+ pile of emails today and found the golden nugget that was your blog post. Among men (most men I choose to hang with, anyway) there are a few phrases we use in informal conversation that we don’t use in polite company (is there impolite company?). One of the expressions, softened a little in an attempt to be polite, is “Holy Crap, Batman!” It is an expression of wonder, or high praise, and paradoxically, derision and consolation. It applies here…with your blog. So excellent; I teared up. Growing up in the PCUSA and living in a church culture that had nothing good to say about Catholicism, my cousins and I all missed out on what we could take in from the story of Mary… all except our 9 Catholic cousins, of course. Some years ago, I began thinking of her fairly often (more like, now and then), and particularly love the story you referenced, but most particularly what you had to say about that story. Just excellent, Nancy. Happy New Year! Grace and Peace!

    On Sun, Dec 24, 2017 at 11:05 PM, Conversation in Faith Weblog wrote:

    > Nancy posted: “For protestants, Advent and Christmas are, in all honesty, > the only time of the year we spend any time thinking about Mary. Often the > words, meek, mild, obedient, and submissive, are used to describe her. > People talk about how young Mary is. All those ” >

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